As an introvert, you might have heard the old advice that you need to be more social to have friends. But what if you just prefer a select few close friendships over a large social circle? And can introverts even have a “best friend?” Despite our reputation for being socially awkward hermits, introverts can have deep and meaningful friendships.
That being said, it can be tough for introverts to navigate the social expectations of friendship, especially when it comes to maintaining close friendships with just one or two people. In this blog post, we’ll take a closer look at the dynamics of introvert friendships and offer some tips on navigating them easily. So if you’ve ever wondered if it’s possible for introverts to have a best friend, read on!
Do Introverts Need Best Friends?
Yes and no – hear me out.
On the one hand, introverts try to build honest, deep, and authentic bonds with a smaller group of people. This means that having a best friend, or even a few close friends, can be incredibly fulfilling and satisfying for an introvert. Having someone to confide in, share experiences with, and simply enjoy each other’s company can be a source of comfort and support.
On the other hand, introverts also tend to value their alone time and may not feel the need for constant social interaction. This means that, unlike extroverts, introverts may not feel the need to have a large circle of friends or constantly be surrounded by people.
However, it’s important to note that having a best friend doesn’t necessarily mean that an introvert needs to be with that person 24/7. It’s about quality over quantity – having one or two close friends who understand and respect an introvert’s need for alone time can be just as valuable as a large group of friends.
Furthermore, having a best friend doesn’t mean that an introvert can’t still enjoy their alone time. In fact, having a best friend who understands and respects an introvert’s need for solitude can actually enhance friendship. It allows the introvert to recharge and come back to the friendship feeling refreshed and ready to engage.
Do introverts have close friends?
Of course, introverts have close friend(s)! While introverts may not seek out as much social interaction as extroverts, they still value human connection and can form deep, meaningful friendships.
As an introvert, you may have one or two close friends with whom you share a strong bond. These friends understand your need for alone time and respect your boundaries. They support you, encourage you, and accept you for who you are. And I am not making this claim out of thin air, I went ahead and conducted a survey. I asked hundreds of introverts if and how many close friends they have, here are the findings:
Here’s a breakdown of my findings:
- 17% of introverts have only one friend.
- 30% of introverts have 2 friends, which is in close resemblance to the ‘closed triangle’ theory I proposed above, which states that most introverts have only two close friends.
- Only 6% introverts have 3 friends, which shows introverts are not that fond of making more than 1-2 close friends.
- 11% of introverts have a group of 4 friends. While its voted by introverts only, I believe it falls under the ‘Open Octagon’ theory I proposed above. These 11% introverts may have only 1-2 close friends while the other 2-3 friends might be acquaintances.
- Lastly, a whopping 36% introverts claim they have no friends. And to be honest, this doesn’t surprise me at all. There will always be some introverts who love their own company and have no problem staying alone and to that, I say GOOD FOR THEM!!!
In total, out of 179 survey participants, 114 or 64% introverts have friends ranging from 1-4 friends, while 65 or 36% percent introverts don’t have any friends.
This shows, that most introverts have 1-2 close friends.
It’s important to note that introverts may take longer to form close friendships. They tend to be more cautious when getting to know someone, preferring to take their time and get to know someone on a deeper level. This can mean that it takes longer for an introvert to find their “person,” but when they do, it’s a relationship built on trust, mutual respect, and a deep understanding of each other.
In the end, the answer to whether an introvert can have a best or closest friend is a resounding “yes!” Introverts may approach friendship differently than extroverts, but they are just as capable of forming close, meaningful relationships with others. So, don’t be afraid to put yourself out there and find your person – they’re out there waiting for you!
Can Introverts Be Best Friends With Extroverts?
Absolutely! Introverts and extroverts can absolutely be best friends. In fact, having friends with different personalities can be a great way to broaden your horizons, learn new things, and gain new perspectives.
As an introvert, I understand some introverts’ concern about being friends with extroverts. After all, introverts prefer quieter, more introspective activities, while extroverts thrive on social interaction and stimulation. But just because we have different preferences doesn’t mean we can’t get along or have a deep, meaningful friendship.
In fact, introverts and extroverts can complement each other very well. For example, an introverted friend might appreciate the way their extroverted friend brings them out of their shell and encourages them to try new things. Meanwhile, an extroverted friend might appreciate the way their introverted friend provides a calming, thoughtful presence in their lives.
Here are some considerations for introverts who want to be best friends with extroverts:
- Communicate openly: It’s important to communicate openly and honestly with your extroverted friend about your needs and preferences. Let them know when you need some alone time or when you’d prefer to do something low-key instead of going to a party.
- Set boundaries: It’s okay to set boundaries with your extroverted friend. If you’re not up for going out every night of the week, it’s okay to say no sometimes. A true friend will respect your boundaries.
- Compromise: At the same time, it’s essential to be willing to compromise. Maybe you don’t love going to loud, crowded bars, but you’re okay to go with your extroverted friend once in a while to make them happy.
- Embrace your differences: Don’t be afraid to embrace your differences. Your introverted nature may be just what your extroverted friend needs in their life, and vice versa. You can build a strong, lasting friendship by accepting and appreciating each other’s unique qualities.
Introverts and extroverts can absolutely be best friends. While it may take some effort to find a balance between your different personalities and preferences, the rewards can be well worth it. By communicating openly, setting boundaries, compromising, and embracing your differences, you can build a meaningful and fulfilling friendship with an extroverted friend.
What Happens When Two Introverts Become Best Friends?
When two introverts become best friends, it’s like finding a kindred spirit. The friendship that develops can be a unique and fulfilling experience. Here are seven things that can happen when two introverts become best friends:
- Comfortable silence: As introverts, we can sometimes feel pressured to fill every moment with conversation. When two introverts become friends, they often find that they’re comfortable in each other’s silence. This can lead to a deeper level of intimacy and trust in the friendship.
- Shared interests: Introverts tend to have a lot of hobbies and interests that are best-enjoyed solo. When two introverts become friends, they can share and bond over these interests. This can lead to a sense of camaraderie and shared understanding.
- Fewer social obligations: When two introverts become friends, they may feel less pressure to attend social events and parties. They understand that each other needs time to recharge and respect each other’s need for alone time.
- Deeper conversations: Introverts tend to enjoy deep conversations and introspection. Two introverts can have meaningful conversations about their thoughts, feelings, and beliefs when they become friends. This can lead to a deeper understanding of each other and a more profound connection in the friendship.
- Empathy: As introverts, we’re often highly sensitive to the emotions of others. When two introverts become friends, they can empathize with each other’s struggles and challenges. This can lead to a sense of compassion and understanding in the friendship.
- Fewer misunderstandings: Introverts can sometimes feel misunderstood by the extroverted world around them. When two introverts become friends, they understand each other’s unique quirks and needs. This can lead to fewer misunderstandings and less frustration in the friendship.
- Mutual support: When two introverts become friends, they can provide each other with a sense of mutual support. They understand each other’s struggles and challenges and can offer encouragement and validation. This can lead to a strong and supportive friendship lasting forever.
Two introverts can create a unique and fulfilling friendship when they become best friends. They can enjoy comfortable silence, share interests, have deep conversations, and empathize with each other’s struggles. They can also provide each other with a sense of mutual support and understanding. All of these things can lead to a deep and meaningful friendship that can last a lifetime.
How do introverts become best friends?
Making friends can be challenging as an introvert, but developing deep and meaningful friendships can be even more difficult. However, there are ways for introverts to connect with their regular friends and become their besties. Here are some tips for introverts looking to deepen their friendships with their regular friends:
- Make time for one-on-one interactions: Introverts tend to thrive in one-on-one interactions, allowing for more in-depth conversations and a deeper connection. Suggesting a coffee or lunch date with a regular friend can be an excellent way to deepen the friendship.
- Share your passions: Introverts often have a few passions they are incredibly knowledgeable about. Sharing those passions with regular friends can help develop a deeper connection as they get to know you more personally. Talking about your interests can also create a natural conversation flow and lead to the development of shared interests.
- Be an active listener: As introverts, we tend to be great listeners. By actively listening to our regular friends, we can show that we care and create a stronger bond. Showing a genuine interest in our friends’ lives and actively listening can lead to a deeper connection and a strong friendship.
- Be vulnerable: Vulnerability can be difficult, but it’s essential to developing deep and meaningful friendships. Being open and honest with our regular friends about our thoughts and feelings can create a sense of trust and lead to a deeper connection.
- Find common ground: Finding common ground with regular friends can be an excellent way to connect and deepen a friendship. Finding shared interests and experiences can create a natural bond and develop a strong bond.
Developing deep and meaningful friendships as an introvert can be challenging, but it’s not impossible. Remember, it’s the quality of the friendship that matters, not the quantity. So take the time to develop those close connections, and you’ll have a friend for life.
How can an introvert be a better friend?
Alrighty, let’s spice things up and make being a better friend as an introvert fun and fabulous! Here are some tips to make your friendship sparkle like glitter:
- Be present: Let’s face it, our phones are always buzzing with notifications, but when we’re with our friends, it’s time to give them the spotlight. Turn off your phone, make eye contact, and show your friends that they have your full attention. This will make them feel like the VIPs they are!
- Show empathy: As an introvert, you’re a natural at listening, so why not put those skills to use? Show your friends some love and compassion by listening intently and trying to understand their perspectives. By doing so, you’re not just a friend but a confidante and a therapist all in one!
- Be supportive: Friends, don’t let friends down! Be there for your buddies during the ups and downs, whether that means lending a shoulder to cry on or throwing a virtual dance party to celebrate. Being a good friend means showing up and showing out!
- Take the initiative: Don’t be afraid to take charge and plan some fun activities for you and your friends. Whether that means hosting a game night, trying a new restaurant, or planning a spa day, take the lead and show your friends a good time. Who knows, you might even discover a new hobby or activity that you all love!
- Show appreciation: As an introvert, you may not be the most vocal about your feelings, but that doesn’t mean you can’t show your appreciation. Send your friends a heartfelt message, surprise them with a thoughtful gift, or simply tell them how much they mean to you. A little bit of love goes a long way, so spread it around like confetti!
- Be a good listener: As introverts, we know that listening is our superpower. So, use it to your advantage and be there for your friends when they need someone to talk to. Whether it’s a rant or a rave, lend an ear and let them know that you care.
- Respect boundaries: While we may love spending time with our friends, respecting their boundaries is important. Give them space and time to recharge if they need some alone time. This way, when you do come together, you’re both ready to make the most of your time together.
- Keep the laughter going: Who doesn’t love a good laugh? As an introvert, you may not be the life of the party, but you can still bring the humor. Crack a joke, share a funny meme, or just enjoy some good old-fashioned banter. Laughter is the best medicine, after all!
- Show up for milestones: Birthdays, graduations, weddings, promotions, and all the other milestones in life are important, so make sure to show up for your friends when they’re celebrating. Even if it’s just a virtual toast, your presence will mean the world to them.
Here’s a small video that gives some more insights to be a better friend in general:
Being a good friend as an introvert is about showing up, being there, and letting your friends know they matter. So, go forth and spread your introverted charm!
Parting Words:
Just because we introverts tend to be more reserved and contemplative doesn’t mean we’re incapable of forming close and meaningful friendships. In fact, our quiet nature often means we’re excellent listeners, empathizers, and supporters, making us the perfect BFF material.
Sure, we may not be the loudest or most outgoing people in the room, but introverts have got it down pat when it comes to loyalty, trust, and understanding. Plus, who needs a ton of friends when you have that one special person who truly gets you?
So, my introverted friends, don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t have a best friend just because you’re not the life of the party. You have your own unique charm, humor, and creativity that can make your friendship shine just as bright (if not brighter) than anyone else’s.
So, grab your favorite book, put on some cozy socks, and give your bestie a call. After all, introverts need love and friendship too, and who knows, you just might have the most epic and unforgettable BFF adventures yet!